Throwing an Engagement Party

You have the ring...NOW WHAT?! You always have the option of throwing an engagement party to let your family and friends in on the big news! EP's are a intimate, fun way to bask in the glory of being engaged! I will let you in on some of the etiquette tips that needed to make sure you don't step on any toes and that everything goes smoothly! 

Who typically throws the Engagement Party? 

Typically, the bride's parents throw the party, however, in these more modern times, a friend or close family member may take the reins. The easiest way to resolve any controversy that may come about because of this, is to allow the Bride's parents to be the first to offer the celebration. If that means having a second "friends-only" party, so be it! You won't get sick of telling everyone just how cute it was when he was on one knee! :]

Timing is Important for your EP!

It is important to have the party shortly after the engagement occurs, 

that way the news is still fairly fresh! You could even plan the party and surprise everyone with the news! This will take some imagination in coming up with a reason for the extravagant gathering, but nonetheless, think about timing! 

 Who should I invite?

Ahh, the question that always haunts anyone in the planning process. The guest list will (and should) be much shorter that the wedding guest list. However, it is said that the people invited to the EP should definitely be invited to the wedding, as well. Both families and close friends are certainly the ones that should be priority for the Engagement Party. 

What kind of party should I have?

Oh, the options are endless! The cocktail party at the Bride's parent's house is certainly a classic, but does not have to be the route you choose. You could have a more formal party with family, and a more casual party with friends. I love themed engagement parties, as well. They are incredibly fun and memorable for the guests! (As if you getting engaged wasn't already memorable! Ha!)

Gifts for the Host

A tip for any kind of gathering is to give the host a token of your gratitude. By no means does this have to be a huge gift or anything over-the-top. Think about it as a couple and decide on something perfect together. Use that imagination!

Wedding Guest Etiquette

As a wedding guest it is important to be aware of the etiquette and standards at which you are being held. I'll be giving you a few pointers to ensure you are always the ideal guest, and not that guest that is minutes from getting asked to leave! So get reading, you have a lot to learn! :]

1. Don't be late! If you are attending the ceremony, then it is vital that you give yourself plenty of time to arrive and get settled! This is even more important if you have never been to the location. Interrupting the processional to find a seat is one disaster no bride wants!

2. Leave the photo-taking to the professionals! I know you are just dying to snap a picture of the bride and groom to mobile upload to your Facebook page, but it takes away from the ceremony! I suggest getting those pictures during the reception. It is a much more laid-back, appropriate time for photos! 

3. Leave your boyfriend at home! I know you were looking forward to the two of you getting all fancy, but if that invite only says your name, then it means just that. Some couples cut costs by eliminating the "+ Guest" next to their guest's name. Bringing an unexpected guest is really impolite, so stick to that invite!

4. Drink in Moderation! You certainly do not want to be THAT guest that embarrasses themselves in their sloppy drunken state. And the truth is, you'll probably embarrass the bride and groom, as well. It is important to know your limits!


5. The Wedding gift - do's and don'ts! If you received an invite, but are unable to attend, it is still customary that you send a wedding gift. Another question that is often pondered is whether or not you should bring a wedding gift with you when you attend. You certainly can, but that just means someone will have to be in charge of taking it home, when the couple probably will not even get it until after their honeymoon. My advice, if it's not a card, send it to the couple. It makes life so much easier for everyone!


6. RSVP, ASAP. When you get that invitation in the mail, it is so important to RSVP as soon as you can! It is important because lots of times it can impact numbers in terms of favors, place cards, seating and even the count for the caterer.


7. What not to wear! I am no Stacy and Clinton of wedding attire, but I definitely have some advice. Some etiquette books say it is okay to wear white to a wedding, but we say no! It is just going to create more buzz than necessary, so keep that cute, white dress for another occasion! Also, it used to be said that you should not wear black to a wedding. This is a total myth. Wear black, I promise you the bride will not even notice! If the dress is indicated on the invitation, follow it, it's there for a reason!


8. Finally, be respectful. This goes for everything. Be respectful of those around you, the couple's traditions and culture, and the festivities of the day...etc. Let the couple have their moment! 


Well, these are just a few tips and pointers, but I hope you learned something about being the ideal guest :] If you haven't already done so, practice these at your next wedding or formal event! Enjoy!